Why I Love Maps

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Jacquie reading a map on a hike in the Peak District

Why do I love maps? 
Why would I never use GPS?
It’s all about the story.
For me, the journey tells a story – as important as the destination. GPS is just about the destination – its clinical precision can be both boring and utterly wrong. When you can read a map well, you are able to tease out the stories in the landscape. You can see how the new road follows an old riverbed, skirts an iron-age fort, or marches ramrod straight along a Roman road. You can see how a town lies on a raised beach, even though it is now 10 miles inland.
In my work as a doula, I see each woman as a having unique body map for each pregnancy. My job is to read the map of the woman and help her navigate the journey. How does her past inform her present body and its response in labour? I read the tightness here, the release there. I follow the path of the acceptance or the fight. The emotional wounds rise up like a raised beach. It is all visible and easily read unless a piece of the map is missing. I can search for months for that missing piece.  I read the journey of the body and the baby, the traveller.
Where did this love of maps, of the landscape and of the body, come from? It all started (as it always does) in childhood.
I was trained in map-reading by my dad. He was a cartographer and artist (with a love of geology), and I remember sitting beside him at his drafting board adding trees to the UBC map he was working on. He taught me how maps were created, how he would layer transparencies over the base. He taught me how to read the layers like a story, and how to make the two dimensional world turn into 3D in my mind. Whenever we went on road trips, he would put my brother and me in charge of the map and the AAA book, and we would act as navigators from the backseat. We could read contour lines, read the glacial effects on the landscape, call out igneous! and sedimentary!, then point out all the 3-star motels with swimming pools. In the winter, we would read Country Life magazines, and write longhand letters to faraway places to request information. We would write to consulates and visit the BCAA to collect maps, and study study study. I can still smell those new maps. I could visualize (and connect with) what a bird must see and feel flying over the British countryside. My dad’s descriptions and the map contours turned into real images in my head. Then, when we landed in the UK  in 1966 (after an emergency landing in sulfuric Iceland), I remember seeing the patchwork green fields and being amazed that it was exactly as my dad had described. “Look at the tiny cars!” he would say, as we were circling the airport. “They look like ants!” I was hooked on maps, hooked on changes in perception, hooked on travel.
My dad told stories of escaping grimy Manchester and cycling through Derbyshire with friends in the late 1930s, following metal signposts to places like Pott Shrigley (all signs point to Pott Shrigley – I know!), camping in farmer’s fields, then riding up to the Cat and Fiddle Pub on top of a peak and watching the smokey towns below. He would show me the map and tell me stories that brought the Peak District to life, from the plague village of Eyam, to the moveable landscape of Chatsworth House. My mother would add stories of the midwives (who taught prenatal yoga in the 1950s) riding their bikes from house to house in the village, and I would trace my finger over the lines on the map and imagine myself riding my bike along those lines. (Did my wish to attend births start then?)
Fast forward to 1982, when Bob and I took our first overseas trip together. By that time, we both felt like veteran European travelers  (8 trips between us, and he had lived there with his intrepid family in the 1960s). So we combined our passions and skills and headed off. We went to the places that we had loved as children – to “Squirrel’s Wood” in Elstead, where he had lived, to the Yorkshire Dales where his dad had been stationed during the Second World War, and to the Peak District, where my dad would ride, where my heart still lives. Bob mowed my gran’s lawn in Manchester, and ate chocolate eclairs on her path in the sunshine. We stayed on a farm in Somerset at lambing season (I’m never far from birthing mammals), and had a stand-off with a large cow on a bridge in Dorset. We took a ferry to France, stayed in high-ceilinged creaky hotels for 20 Francs and ate tureens of Potage de Legumes in Laon and the Loire (epic)! Our Renault (which we filled with diesel once – seriously) had been bought just for us by a small garage in Crawley, and after an epic repair, that little car took us thousands of miles across the roads of France and Switzerland. We ended the trip with Bob dreaming of owning a sheep farm in Scotland, and me dreaming of helping the sheep birth in the middle of the night.
When I do my client visits, I draw from their stories of their travels to India, Italy, or Guatemala. Each physical journey that they have taken teaches them something about their own bodies, their responses, their patience, their strength. They climb mountains one step at a time. They cry, “I don’t think I can do this!”on the West Coast Trail, but they do it!  I add each of their stories to my own map of their body for later reference. My own daughter says she was kelp in her birth pool in labour. I add the new word “kelp” onto my map of her  - connecting her labour to the water of Boundary Bay, the beach at Point Roberts, her cousin Graham dragging giant strands of kelp up to the cabin, Graham diving into a lake, then her sons Jack, then Finn, diving into the world headfirst and feetfirst.
So when I stand with Bob on a path in the Luberon in a few weeks, listening to the sound of les cigales, I will look down at the map in my hands and see all the possible routes before us.  I will see the traced path, and below that, I will see a layer of the red soil, and, below that, the geological history of the land. But, I will also see the layered stories and histories of all those who have stood on the path, see their labours and births, see children running ahead to that cave over there, see Alex and Alanna climbing to Fort Buoux a few years ago, see Sarah and David taking photos in Ansouis, see my parents chattering to each other as they drive along the road to Apt, see my brother and his wife cycling towards Bedoin in the distance, and see all the lines that each person has traced on this particular spot.
There’s no need for GPS.
It is the journey that tells the story, in life and in birth. Maps are drawn on our bodies layer upon layer… and are held within us.
- Jacquie Munro  www.slowbirth.com

9 Month Gestation

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As a busy birth doula, I have to book our vacation time 9 months in advance. No more flying to Hawaii on less than 24 hours notice (that was exciting!), or Scotland on 4 days notice (you would, too, if you found a $250 flight). Exciting trips! But there's a cost to spontaneity. You lose the depth of experience that research, reading and planning can bring. So, this past October, we decided to think of the 9 months of waiting for this summer's European trip as a gestational period...with time for thoughtful planning, reflection on past experiences, and expectation.

So, on a cold Fall evening in 2012, my husband and I started our Summer 2013 planning by reminding each other which slow travel experiences we have loved the most. We listed off our favourites easily. "That Lustleigh Cleave walk in Devon - green and quiet." "Our East Linton hike in Scotland past Hailes Castle and Traprain Law - a sacred hill climb with fighter jets overhead." "Fort Buoux in Provence with the kids - following the souls of those escaping down the secret stone stairway." "Monterosso to Levanto - dripping sweat on a hike, returning by boat over the sparkling sea." These memories are crisp and sparkling, and each involved a hike in a place so quiet you can almost hear the ghosts of the past. No crowds. Just slow travel.

But we need to include another love of ours - cycling. It's a bit faster travel than hiking, but it still qualifies as slow travel (except for our speed-demon mountain descents). Past stand-out memories include riding our Velib bikes (me in a skirt!) through the busy streets of Paris to an outdoor concert, pedaling to the tip of Galiano Island, and speeding down a hill to lunch at an agriturismo in the Chianti hills.

As a doula, I nurture each woman's experience, reminding her that my goal is to help her create a positive memory that will last a lifetime. That sounds a lot like travel! Each person's concept of the "ideal birth" or the "ideal holiday" is different. The woman who has a cesarean can be more satisfied than the woman whose baby is born on her bathroom floor (ah, crazy expectations). One person's stolen passport disaster can be another person's colourful story! After our passports were stolen in Montmartre (it was a scene out of the Bourne Identity), we let loose (what could we lose?), chatted to everyone we met, and created some of our best Paris memories...from the leather-jacketed detectives who came home with us to the hole-in-the-wall studio photographer (I'm sure he makes fake passports) off the Champs Elysees to the commiserating tourists at Coquelicot to the "I'll do anything for you" server at Le Cafe Qui Parle. It was an epic day, topped off by a race from the Canadian Consulate to the airport, with no time to spare!

While my clients are googling everything pregnancy and birth related, I'm googling birth research, plus Trenitalia, Tour de France and Alistair Sawday. When they say "I don't know what I don't know!", I remind them (and myself) to simply absorb the information for a few months...and then all will become clear. So, after sharing with me their best and worst experiences of trekking in the Himalayas, the couples who didn't have any opinions about anything baby-related start to draw from their slow travel lessons and current experiences, and eventually start asking me about slow parenting, co-sleeping and babywearing. And they, in turn, help me to understand that a 5-hour drive to pick up bikes in Provence is crazy. I change our bookings so we will drive less and increase our hiking and cycling time. And my clients leave work earlier and start walking on the beach more, and I start reading novels set in Italy. We all slow down. We learn from each other. We learn from our own lives, our own histories. We remember what is important to us. In travel and in birth, the journey can have as much long-lasting impact on us as the destination.

No, I really don't believe that "a healthy baby" or "a healthy body" or "a safe arrival at our destination" is our only goal. An open mind, an open heart, a connection with others, and a positive perception of our experience, leading to a good memory (in addition to the safe and sometimes unexpectedly interesting arrival) is what is important.

Each of us has a singular perception of reality. Each experience is unique. The key is to roll with it.

So...even though we have set the stage for a great trip...
- Flying into Venice and staying in a flat in Palazzo Widmann
- Hiking to San Fruttuoso Abbey over Portofino Peninsula (only accessible by foot or boat)
- Watching (in person!) 5 stages of the 100th Tour de France
- Hiking up  Toulourenc Gorge near Vaison la Romaine
Cycling with 5000 others down the cobbles on the Champs Elysees on the last day of the tour
- Riding old bikes from L'Hort de Sant Cebria to the windy beaches of Catalunya
...we have no idea what adventures will stand out in our memories. That, we will leave to chance.

The 9 months gestation of our trip are almost over. Just a couple of weeks before take-off. Just like birth...whatever happens, the journey is going to be amazing!

- Jacquie Munro, Slow Birth, Vancouver Doula

A note from Teddy's mama

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Lyndsay's birth was an emotional triumph. It had been a challenging pregnancy, but she faced it one day at a time.  She gathered together her team - family, friends, doula, doctor. On the sunny birthing day, my memory is of so many women (including her sister, as well as her dear friend who had also been my client) - our hands, our quiet voices, and our hearts, helping Lyndsay through the waves. I say waves because most of her time at the hospital was spent in the bath. Low toning, the splash of the water...our words...you are safe...you are safe... Those are my memories of the day.  I don't think her eyes ever opened until her son was born into her arms, and then...what joy! Her birth was open, raw, supported, undisturbed. It was a day that I will never forget!
Here are Lyndsay's words describing how I helped her on that day...and how we are still connected now:
Jacquie is an incredible woman. Her strength, knowledge, compassion, empathy, understanding, calm, wisdom and experience carried me through my nine months of pregnancy. I had a particularly rough one, emotionally, as at the time I was on my own. Jacquie was never judgemental, always empathetic to the diversity and complexity of humans. She always, always had words that were so wise and thoughtful, words which would would allow me to feel supported and just a little bit stronger. I called her many times in tears, unsure if I could do it, overwhelmed by the uncertainty of my situation and the unknown world of pregnancy and childbirth. 
The day of my son's birth arrived and Jacquie led me through every contraction, movement, sound, emotion, sensation. It was her words that calmed me and allowed me to realize that my body was just doing its thing. "Feels crazy but it's safe." She would tell me I was safe, that my body was doing what it was meant to be doing, that even though it felt like I was trying to pass a bowling ball out of my vagina that this feeling, this immense and unbelievable physical pressure, was normal. I felt no fear - I closed my eyes, gave in to these unknown sensations and knew I was in a safe place. Just had to move through. I must have crushed Jacquie's hand about 50 times through the labour. 
After it was all over Jacquie told me she knew from the moment she met me that my birth would be as it was: powerful, strong, no complications. I apparently birthed like a champ. I needed to feel that - I needed that insane strength, to feel that power of being a woman warrior, to overcome my emotional and personal sadness and to embrace labour and birth. I thank Jacquie for this. Jacquie will forever remain a huge part of my memory of my pregnancy and birth experience! She was also so helpful in postpartum -nursing issues and ongoing personal issues - and I truly felt cared for by her. I can't recommend Jacquie enough!

Go to DoulaMatch to read a few more "testimonials" from my many amazing clients!

- Jacquie Munro, Vancouver Doula, Slow Birth

Photo Credit: Jonetsu Photography
 
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